Monday, April 14, 2014

A-Z Challenge: L is for Loyalty

Loyalty is a tricky word today. Most claim to have it but in reality, they don't. I am so lucky to have a circle of family and friends who are loyal to their core but it's taken years of weeding out the ones who claimed to have loyalty but in reality, did not. The people in my life show up, they back up their words with their actions...and I try my best to do the same. The definition of  loyalty is as follows:

loy·al·ty

  [loi-uhl-tee]  Show IPA
noun, plural loy·al·ties.
1.
the state or quality of being loyalfaithfulness to commitmentsor obligations.
2.
faithful adherence to a sovereign, government, leader, cause,etc.
3.
an example or instance of faithfulness, adherence, or the like: man with fierce loyalties.

And when it comes to relationships, I am fiercely loyal. If  I'm in, I'm in and there is no amount of temptation or anyone else in the world that can change that. There is just no other option as far as I'm concerned. I have been on the receiving end of being cheated on and betrayed. I've been blindsided, hurt and I would never, ever inflict that on anyone else. Ever. So for me it's pretty cut and dry. But I feel like I'm a dying breed as far as that's concerned. The "relationship" I'm in now is unlike anything I've ever been in, not sure what to call it or what to do with it but I am STILL loyal, though I have no idea if the same loyalty is being given to me. I mean, I think it is but who knows? And yet, until the words "it's over" are spoken, there is nothing that could make me change that. It's so strange and yet I wouldn't change it, even if it hurts in the end. Because I know at some point, it will be valued-if not by him then someone else. It will be appreciated, it will be respected. It has to be, right? At some point, karma has to kick around and kick around in a good way. But even if it never does, I can't change it and I wouldn't change it. We are who we are and I think anyone with core values like respect, loyalty and being kind to people are unable to change that regardless of how hurt we get by others. At the end of the day you alone have to live with yourself. I couldn't live with myself if I betrayed someone else and if I betrayed my core values. Loyalty is a huge word and if you don't have it, you shouldn't claim it. Say "I'm kind of loyalish" or "Meh, I'm loyal until it gets hard then I'm out"...something. But people should stop throwing that word around like it's the other "L" word used waaaaaaay too much-Love. And that is the end of my soapbox rant today. I have to write what I feel and this is huge for me right now. So for those who are loyal-stay that way. It will be rewarded in the end. At some point. =)

2 comments:

  1. And I would do anything for love....but I won't do that. Oops wrong L word.

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    1. Hahahahahahah WAY wrong L word yo! But I still wonder what Meatloaf was talking about...what wouldn't he do????????

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