Tuesday, April 1, 2014

A-Z blogging...the letter A. Acceptance.

I've decided to start this blogging challenge with an "A" word that is a challenge for me in real life: Acceptance. Acceptance can be a hard thing for people, I know it can be for me. Accepting life and our absolute lack of control in it, accepting there are situations far beyond our control and our lack of control over that, and accepting people for who they are and NOT who we want them to be-and once again our complete lack of control of that as well. The last one is the hardest for me personally. Human beings are wired for certain things: we seek love, we seek affection, and we seek acceptance. It's rare to find someone who can accept you for the person you are: who can see you at your worst, but who can accept that and focus on what they see when you're at your best. And it is hard to accept that in someone else as well. We all have a certain duality to us: the "good" and the "bad" side as it's referred to. To accept that in ourselves is hard, but it might be harder still to accept that in others. Personally, I have to learn to accept that in myself as well as in others. If I trust someone else enough to show them my worst, shouldn't I accept and honor that when it's shown to me as well? And shouldn't we ALL do that for people we care about? Showing others that it's ok to be who you are-the total and complete all of you. Not just the shiny, happy and "pretty" parts of you. The raw, the emotional, the intense,the "ugly", the HUMAN parts as well. We ALL have them and we all present them differently. I think if we start accepting each other for ALL of what we are, since we all are so multifaceted and think/react differently than others will, we would all be a lot better off. Accpeting life as what it is and people for who they are...that could be the start of a wonderful thing.

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  1. You're right, we have to learn to accept all of us, the good, the bad, and the ugly.

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  2. I find it easy to accept faults in others, not so good at believing others accept my faults...which is plain stupid of me but I'm working on it.
    Nice 'A', job well done!
    Enjoying the A to Z Challenge Maggie@expatbrazil.

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    1. Thank you Maggie! It's something I struggle with as well but I'm working on that as well!! I look forward to reading yours! =)

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  3. I tend to find fault in myself and not judge others...unless they have pissed me off one too many times..*cough * cough Drama Mama. Welcome to the rest of your life and blogging!

    whowouldathought-kevin.blogspot.com

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    1. And that is one of the many reasons I approve of your bromance with my fauxbroinlaw! =) thank you love-can't wait to read yours!!!!

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    2. My sibling from another dribbling!

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    3. Hahaha yup! Too bad Baby Mana drama isn't the one that moved 😞

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  4. Well written Kell :) sooo ya me and acceptance..hmmmm. I seem to do extremely well accepting ALL aspects of the "usually" undeserved. Lol. But seriously this is one of my FAV quotes by Jim Morrison on acceptance. A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself—and especially to feel, or not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at any moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is.

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  5. Yeah, I am annoyed by faults in others (especially if they display those faults in line in front of me at the grocery store - ha!) but not near as much as I am annoyed by the faults in me.

    I'll be seeing you in the A to Z Challenge. Check me out: All Things Kevyn.

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    1. Haha yes, you can be forgiven for the inability to overlook flaws at a grocery store-or a Walmart! Acceptance is hard though, to truly accept your own flaws or others. Le sigh.

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    2. I do accept my flaws now. In my twenties, I didn't believe I had any flaws. In my thirties, I realized I had them, but thought I could "fix" them. Now, in my forties, I have just decided to live with them. After all, they are what makes me, me.

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    3. I think that's an amazing thing that you've accepted the total you! Currently I'm in the "fix it" mode. I opened up to someone and it didn't go well. So acceptance is a huge theme for me right now...or lack thereof! Haha. But it gives hope that you can find acceptance of all your "perfect imperfections". It's a wonderful thing!

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