Tuesday, April 1, 2014
A-Z blogging...the letter A. Acceptance.
I've decided to start this blogging challenge with an "A" word that is a challenge for me in real life: Acceptance. Acceptance can be a hard thing for people, I know it can be for me. Accepting life and our absolute lack of control in it, accepting there are situations far beyond our control and our lack of control over that, and accepting people for who they are and NOT who we want them to be-and once again our complete lack of control of that as well. The last one is the hardest for me personally. Human beings are wired for certain things: we seek love, we seek affection, and we seek acceptance. It's rare to find someone who can accept you for the person you are: who can see you at your worst, but who can accept that and focus on what they see when you're at your best. And it is hard to accept that in someone else as well. We all have a certain duality to us: the "good" and the "bad" side as it's referred to. To accept that in ourselves is hard, but it might be harder still to accept that in others. Personally, I have to learn to accept that in myself as well as in others. If I trust someone else enough to show them my worst, shouldn't I accept and honor that when it's shown to me as well? And shouldn't we ALL do that for people we care about? Showing others that it's ok to be who you are-the total and complete all of you. Not just the shiny, happy and "pretty" parts of you. The raw, the emotional, the intense,the "ugly", the HUMAN parts as well. We ALL have them and we all present them differently. I think if we start accepting each other for ALL of what we are, since we all are so multifaceted and think/react differently than others will, we would all be a lot better off. Accpeting life as what it is and people for who they are...that could be the start of a wonderful thing.